Thursday, September 3, 2009

Thursday Morning Coffee Talk

Got your cuppa beside you?

It's a new blog day at House of Muse:  Thursday Morning Coffee Talk. I realized that much of the time my blog revolves around my writing and my books, but very little about me or my life. Not that its a made-for TV movie mind you, but I have to wonder sometimes! ;)  And if not me--what about my friends???

Stay in your jamiies or sweats-grab your cuppa and lets see where this goes...

The idea came to me after speaking to some friends this week, I decided to open up the back door of HOM (where the real friends always come know ) and invite you in for a cuppa joe or some tea before we start our day.

You bet that we  will  talk hunky guys and steamy excerpts on other days, but I wanted one day-- Thursday as a  "grounding" day-- a "check in to reality" day to realize share our gifts and the gifts of others that inspire us  to reach higher, to give back, to be grateful. I don't know yet exactly who will be my guests, but I think the possibilities are intriguing!

Okay, on that note...lets talk for a moment about CRAP days...We all have them. Those days when you wonder why you got out of bed. One of those days that makes you ask, well, what more could possibly happen? ;) (and usually does!)

And then it happens...a thread of light, a glimmer of insight. An unexpected email or phone call from a good friend, saying hey, I was just thinking about you. Do you need to talk? A message from the Universe to remember that despite what it seems, you are not alone and that  this too shall pass. 

Now understand, that sometimes what "we" perceive as bad days are fueled by our tunnel vison, right? We get so wrapped up in our percieved problems, our goals and desires that its difficult to push through and see what else is happening beyond our little bubble.

Two things brought this to light for me in the last twenty-four hours. One, I ran across an article in a newspaper.  It was an  interview from a mother in our community whose young adult son was recently killed in a accidental house fire.  He wasn't the most stellar kid growing up insoafr as public accolades and achievements, but he was a good kid, a kind person, a loving son, brother and friend.

Now I dont share this as a downer to the morning --far from it.  I dont know what else could possibly jar you back to the reality of priorities more than that. Just when you think your life is so bad-you realize just how much worse it could be--and is, for some people. Count your blessings.

The second came late last night through my email, as I sat staring bleary-eyed at the screen, pondering more than I ought to--the mystery's of life.  The email was from my eldest son. The subject line:
"This is the one that got the best feeling. I think its the way I am going to go."   It was a picture of the ring he and his girlfriend had looked at (out of many I got the feeling ;)  and the one he is planning to give her at a time and place undisclosed to anyone at this time.  He is a hopeless romantic.. who knew?  I teared up as I looked at the image and knew how much he has thought about this, how they have discussed the possibility. How really wise and sensible they've been.  I thought of having a daughter-in-law...and yes, I thought of grandchildren. Wow. More coffee.

But it brought me back to reality. To how much I have to be grateful for. How incrediably richer than Midas I am in so many ways. Here is a kid,(no longer a kid but a man) that when he was I think, about third grade, when asked what he wanted to do when he grew up wrote, "Have a family." 

I see how he treats women, especially his girlfriend, his grandmothers, his mom and his friends.  I see how hard-working he is, how he uses his talents, and gives back, and I think to myself, somehow you managed to raise a real life hero. He is meticulously planning out how he is going to proprose to her and  I'll keep you posted as to what brilliant scheme he comes up with!;)

As one who writes romance, you hear often about the "heroes" at home. And I am no exception.  My poor dh got an earful last night and I realized how blessed I am to have such a man who really listens and then calmly offers his objective insight (which is brilliant and spot on most of the time) giving me new perspective. I love him like no other and while he may not "look" like the guys on the covers that I sooo love to write about, every one of my heroes possesses a quality of that man I married.

So my morning coffee is almost drained and I have a pile of edits awaiting and a slew of emails to answer. Its overcast here, been raining, a good day to remember what is of real value and importance in your life. Of being grateful for the things and people in your life that support and make all the yuk days flee.

Anyone else have an interesting day recently? Have a dilemma that you want feedback on?
Anyone just want to ask for some support in good thoughts or well wishes to something going on in your life or someone you know?  Do you have an accomplishment (big or small) that we can celebrate with you?  Discuss...

Good talk~


Cheeky Girl said...

I love this new blog feature! Huge congrats on the hero son and the future daughter-in-law!

Today so far is my "why did I get up" day. I've been down the past few days with a dull ache and some pains in my side. Doctor's verdict this morning...Appendix. Now I'm waiting for a catscan to confirm.

I'm hoping something great happens later today! We are scheduled to fly to Rhode Island tomorrow to celebrate DH's grandparents 60th wedding anniversary. I really hope we don't miss that!

So good to read your blog and i really love the Coffee Talk idea!

Amanda McIntyre said...

Oh Cheeky, yeah been there done that with one of the twins--Easter this year! Amazing thing is, it is now an outpatient procedure! I suppose depending on the severity and recover time. But not something to mess with!
Sending you white light!!

And 60 years! Wow that is worthy of applause!!!

Be well~


Cecile Smutty Hussy said...

Oh Cheeky, I will be praying for you! Hope all turns out good for you!

Amanda, love this new feature!! And your son... All I can saw is Awwww!! You have raised an amazing son. He does sound like a real hero!! Congrats on getting a future DIL!!

Let's see... I have not had any morning where I have not wanted to get up out of bed lately. Things, for the most part, have been well at my house. Hubby is sick though (yesterday & today); went to doctor, got shot and meds... Head/Chest cold and touch of flu!! Come' on now... It is August... Middle of summer and we have the flu going around!

But my struggle is watching my 15 yr old daughter grow into a young lady... Who does not need her mom around... **sniff** She has her permit and a friend who drives... So, when they want to do something, they smiply go! And hearing all her events on her calendar... She even passed that comment this morning... that time is going kinda fast! I agreed. She made me laugh and told me she felt like she just left kindergartner. That made me smile! But she is growing up into a beautiful young lady.

I have learned to never say "what else can happen," because the minute that comes out of my mouth... something is already happening. LOL!

I hope you all have a great day and a wonderful tomorrow!

Amy C said...

This is a really great idea. It's always nice to change gears and just talk about whatever is on your mind. Especially since lately for me, reading has been one of the farthest things from my mind. I feel like I have so much on my plate, but I'm motivated.

However, this morning my husband did give me a wake-up-whammy. And I don't mean like that either! :P It is serious, or could be. He found a lump on his testicle. He's so conscientious of things like that. He made an appointment this morning and has another to determine what it is on the 9th. Pretty scary stuff, but our doc did say that either way, because he did find it and didn't disregard it, it's small enough that there shouldn't be any serious problems. We'll remain positive until we know. I know it'll weigh on him until then though.

Your oldest son sounds like one fine man!

Anonymous said...

What a great post! I'm really liking this. Well, I have to agree with you about the "tunnel vision" when you feel like your life just isn't going right. I've had those moments, and I've also had those moments when you realize your life really isn't that bad.

What has been weighing on my mind lately is the fact that I'm not working at the moment.

I've had a job since I was 15. I know that my kids need me, and I am happy that they aren't with a sitter. My hubby is enjoying the fact that I'm home with them, but a part of me really misses working.

Then I feel guilty for complaining. My little one is three, and before I know it, she'll be in school and I'll be back at the salon and complaining that I never get a break, lol.

Sigh...I really don't know why this bugs me so much. I should be enjoying this "free" time with my kids.

Anyhow, enough of my whining. Like you said people have MUCH bigger issues. Your son sounds like a real catch! His girlfriend is a lucky gal ;)

Amanda McIntyre said...

LOL Cecile! I love that idea of not think ing about what else could happen! lesson learned!

Kids, there are days you cannot wait for them to grow up and then suddenly you wish they were small again, right?
Going through that right now on various age levels! I sympathize! Just hug me close every day!


Amanda McIntyre said...

Hey Amy! Oh man.I know where you guys are at and thankfully it sounds like he caught it in time.

We women are hounded to do the checking and have monthly mammograms, but men I dont think are told the importance of these type of checks!

I can remember being scared to death several years ago when we recieved the same news. It was early and went through surgery , treatments and waiting with the realization that we might never have kids again and if we did abnomalities might result from his radiation bouts.

Another five years we waited and I discovered I was pregnant, with said young man in my post above. He was my healthiest and largest of all my children! LOL and then we went on to have twin sons five years after that! The Cancer registry at the University loves to talk to us! LOL

Take care of it and know we're all sending you good vibes!!


Amanda McIntyre said...

Hey Barb! I dont think you're whining at all. I think having a sense of fulfillment is important, if not vital to our over all health!

I have a good friend facing similar life changes too. Re-evaluation is not complaining, IMO. Its just that--reevaluation.
I have been fortunate enough to be able to stay at home-but dealt with the prejudices of that on the other side of the coin! lol

Know I work from within my home--wait a Have you considered opening one in your home? set your own hours, tax write off, be there for kids?

hum..something to chew on?